My entire life I have been a really big fan of romantic comedy movies. I don't know why, I just do. I find them enjoyable and they make you excited for your time when you actually get to find your own partner for life. Thankfully the time has come in my own life, that I have found my own special someone that I want to be with forever and ever.
Yet there is one thing that they never seem to show you in movies, the things that matter the most, and as I have been in my relationship for a while now, I am starting to see what is truly important in a relationship.
What really matters is how you two view each other. Are you seeing your partner as equal? Are you making sure to put their needs in front of your needs? What is it that you want the most out of your relationship, the others happiness or your own?
There is something else that is important also, that is how you both feel and view about everything. What are your feelings about God and family? What about Gays? Temple Worship? And what about a family?
All these things are of the most worth in a relationship.
It seems like every time that me and Lian talk I learn just how similar that we really are. Most recently we have been talking a lot about gays, one of our close friends has just told us that he is gay. And it seems like we both feel the exact same way about them and how we deal with them.
And that is what they don't teach you in the movies. It is not about rolling around in between the bed sheets, or all those feelings that come from when you first start to like someone. It is about sharing the same beliefs and wanting the same thing. About know the person as well as you know yourself. About putting their needs and wants ahead of your own. Being willing to stay up all night and talk to them and comfort them because they are feeling down about themselves or something that happened to them.
That is true love, and that is what you don't learn in movies!!
Sunday, July 3, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
My Fiancee has skills
One of the nice things about marring someone is that they will often have talents and skills that you lack, yet you want to be part of my family. In my case there is no exception. Lian is a very talented person when it comes to the fine arts department. Now my skills in that department are next to none, thankfully Lian more then makes up for it with hers.
Lian is one of the very few people that I know that can actually play Classical Guitar, now to make that even better, she happens to be the only female I know of that plays it. And as it turns out, she is one of the very few females that she knows that does also, turns out it is a very male dominate field.
She is also a very talented singer. In fact on her mission, her and one of her companions made a CD of them singing the church hymns, while Lian was playing on her guitar.
And even this is not enough for my little Malaysian Bat, she was given a nice Cello and wants to learn how to play that. Adding yet another of her many music talents to our family. So Mom in the end you finally got your music player, you just had to get it through marriage.
Now not only is she a great musician, she is also a very talented artist. She has painting skills that I can only dream of. In fact on my first trip there I was trying to help her paint some hand outs for the primary kids in her branch, and lets just say that is was very obvious of which ones I had painted verses her. Poor kids.
She is also a wonderful amateur photographer. Her pictures are some of the best that I have ever seen. What adds even more to her photos is the fact that her camera is not one of the top models in the world. In fact, from what she tells me, it is actually a very simple model, and that the shutter speed is slow and the lenses is not all that good of quality. However, you would not think that at all if you look at her photos. She just takes such wonderful pictures, that you think, dang I want her to do my wedding:).
Finally I think the best part about all her talents, is that for some reason in the end, she still loves me, even when I drive her nuts by nut fully appreciating all the many talents that she has. As I have said from the beginning I am a very science minded man, the fine arts are the great mysteries of the world. It is because of this view that I have not spent nearly enough time in my life devoted to learning more about them. And sadly it has done me no good. I lack the ability to see all the artist work that Lian often puts into things. I somehow always seem to find the one picture in the entire album that she is not proud of, and think it is the best photo ever. While the ones that she is most proud of I think are her worse, sorry Lian. But that is because I am lacking to much in those departments, not her.
She has more talent for the fine arts in her one little pinky toe then I have in all of my 6'3" 250lbs frame. I am very thankful that she loves me, I am very thankful that she puts up with me so much. I know that I can be very hard at times to put up with, and it means the world to me when I have someone that will stand by me, not matter how doinky I become.
In the end, I love you Lian, and I want to be with you forever. I know I drive you nuts, and am not the best at times, but I always love you and your many talents.
Now just so that all of you can see what I am talking about. Here is a link to one of the songs that she and her companion, Sister Olsen did. Lian is the one playing the guitar. Now you all get to see the wonderful talent that my Little Malaysian Bat has:).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO6zoUvPpuA
Lian is one of the very few people that I know that can actually play Classical Guitar, now to make that even better, she happens to be the only female I know of that plays it. And as it turns out, she is one of the very few females that she knows that does also, turns out it is a very male dominate field.
She is also a very talented singer. In fact on her mission, her and one of her companions made a CD of them singing the church hymns, while Lian was playing on her guitar.
And even this is not enough for my little Malaysian Bat, she was given a nice Cello and wants to learn how to play that. Adding yet another of her many music talents to our family. So Mom in the end you finally got your music player, you just had to get it through marriage.
Now not only is she a great musician, she is also a very talented artist. She has painting skills that I can only dream of. In fact on my first trip there I was trying to help her paint some hand outs for the primary kids in her branch, and lets just say that is was very obvious of which ones I had painted verses her. Poor kids.
She is also a wonderful amateur photographer. Her pictures are some of the best that I have ever seen. What adds even more to her photos is the fact that her camera is not one of the top models in the world. In fact, from what she tells me, it is actually a very simple model, and that the shutter speed is slow and the lenses is not all that good of quality. However, you would not think that at all if you look at her photos. She just takes such wonderful pictures, that you think, dang I want her to do my wedding:).
Finally I think the best part about all her talents, is that for some reason in the end, she still loves me, even when I drive her nuts by nut fully appreciating all the many talents that she has. As I have said from the beginning I am a very science minded man, the fine arts are the great mysteries of the world. It is because of this view that I have not spent nearly enough time in my life devoted to learning more about them. And sadly it has done me no good. I lack the ability to see all the artist work that Lian often puts into things. I somehow always seem to find the one picture in the entire album that she is not proud of, and think it is the best photo ever. While the ones that she is most proud of I think are her worse, sorry Lian. But that is because I am lacking to much in those departments, not her.
She has more talent for the fine arts in her one little pinky toe then I have in all of my 6'3" 250lbs frame. I am very thankful that she loves me, I am very thankful that she puts up with me so much. I know that I can be very hard at times to put up with, and it means the world to me when I have someone that will stand by me, not matter how doinky I become.
In the end, I love you Lian, and I want to be with you forever. I know I drive you nuts, and am not the best at times, but I always love you and your many talents.
Now just so that all of you can see what I am talking about. Here is a link to one of the songs that she and her companion, Sister Olsen did. Lian is the one playing the guitar. Now you all get to see the wonderful talent that my Little Malaysian Bat has:).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO6zoUvPpuA
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Coke!
Okay so this blog post is going to be all about the magic drink that is known as coke. Now I know what most of you are thinking that coke is really not the best drink out there for you. And for the most part I would have to agree with you on that. However, let me tell you why I think it is magical.
So for the most part I do not really drink coke all that much. I find it to be not something that I am really fond of and the taste is not really to my liking, I prefer a nice Root Beer instead. But that all changes when I head overseas.
So many of you have heard the old story that if you leave like a piece of meat in coke over night and then check in on it the next day, the meat will have been dissolved. This is 100% true, coke contains some very powerful ingredients that will take out a lot of things, but this is why I love coke so much when I am overseas.
So one of the first things you need to know about traveling abroad is that you will get food poisoning at least once in your life, no matter how hard you try to avoid it, it just will happen. I am afraid that our American food system is really good, and most other countries do not always have the same standards for their foods. So in the end, you will be spending a night in some bathroom wishing that the food would just get the heck out and you no longer have to fell so bad. For me a trip outside of the States is not complete without getting food poising at least once.
But back to the topic, coke should always be you drink of choice outside of the states. Remember all those things I said about it and how it was powerful, well that will prevent you from ever getting anything. Well hopefully. I know that for me this Christmas I was once again in Malaysia visiting the Fiancee and I made sure to drink twice as much coke this time, and I didn't get sick at all!!
So there is your 411, make sure to have a coke a day, it keeps the toilet away!
So for the most part I do not really drink coke all that much. I find it to be not something that I am really fond of and the taste is not really to my liking, I prefer a nice Root Beer instead. But that all changes when I head overseas.
So many of you have heard the old story that if you leave like a piece of meat in coke over night and then check in on it the next day, the meat will have been dissolved. This is 100% true, coke contains some very powerful ingredients that will take out a lot of things, but this is why I love coke so much when I am overseas.
So one of the first things you need to know about traveling abroad is that you will get food poisoning at least once in your life, no matter how hard you try to avoid it, it just will happen. I am afraid that our American food system is really good, and most other countries do not always have the same standards for their foods. So in the end, you will be spending a night in some bathroom wishing that the food would just get the heck out and you no longer have to fell so bad. For me a trip outside of the States is not complete without getting food poising at least once.
But back to the topic, coke should always be you drink of choice outside of the states. Remember all those things I said about it and how it was powerful, well that will prevent you from ever getting anything. Well hopefully. I know that for me this Christmas I was once again in Malaysia visiting the Fiancee and I made sure to drink twice as much coke this time, and I didn't get sick at all!!
So there is your 411, make sure to have a coke a day, it keeps the toilet away!
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